What is wrong with me …?

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ok, ever since i can remember, i am not a good people person lol. i never really had any friends, and the friends i did have, tended to ignore me. i never really had any strong relationships and i tended to make enemies easily (even though i was a nice person, just i was an easy target) i looked up depression and it seems to be what i am suffering from, but my mom doesnt think that this is the case and i need to turn to Jesus. I have always had Christ in my life, and i pray when i am feeling sad, but i tend to have mood swings very badly. my fiance just witnessed tonite one of my episodes. now, i would NEVER consider suicide, but i do tend to believe that everyone would be better off if i would just die. yes, i know this is not normal thinking for the regular person. I was always made fun of growing up. i was in cheerleading and i didn’t seem to get along with the other cheerleaders so i never made friends with them and they never tried being my friend. in fact, they always blamed me if we didnt win a competition or something. my fiance doesnt seem to understand my past and i can’t explain it.
Yes, i had friends … but i don’t even talk to those people anymore. going to school (for as far back as i can remember) everyone always singled me out and picked on me. is this only me ??? i don’t ask for much, i mean, i know nobody really needs me in their life. i seem to always cause grief and stress even in my family.
im not exactly a black sheep, but everyone does get more attention than i do. example: when i was 19, i asked my grandmother to cosign for a car loan for me … and she refused ! my brother is 2 years older than i am and my grandmother bought his first three cars (after he wrecked the first two). Then when my cousin turned 16, she gave her the money to buy her first car.
I just don’t understand what is wrong with me. can anyone help ???

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It sounds like you are suffering from depression, fairly likely from a chemical imbalance. Now, this is coming from a Christian who believes in the power of prayer and divine healing- so I understand your mom’s point. The thing is, people who have never experienced clinical depression have some difficulty understanding it. They tend to feel like you should just “snap out of it”- and I have heard more times than I care to count that if you have a real relationship with God that the depression will be lifted- but you need to understand that it can be related to a chemical problem with your body and brain, it’s not just an episode of feeling sad but a chemical imbalance that needs to be corrected. I would talk with your doctor about your feelings. I know there is a little bit of a stigma associated with taking antidepressants, but the way my doctor explained it to me was this “If you had a heart problem that required medication, would you be ashamed to take the medicine? of course not, and this is the same kind of thing”. As far as your family and the issues there, I don’t know what to tell you, and as far as your fiance, try asking him to visit a few online depression support sites and looking around and reading about it- it may help him understand. I hope this helps you. Feel free to email me if you like, I’d be happy to be a sympathetic and understanding ear for you.

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