I fount condom wrapper of my 16 daughter.
Advice for mom with 16 and boyfriend?
she has had the same boyfriend for 9 months, I know his parents. The boyfriend is over here Alto for movies and to hang out. They are never allowed in the bedroom without the door open. He actually is like a son to me.
Yesterday I had a dr apt and left them here for an hour. Last night when i was cleaning the bathroom i found a condom wrapper. I was devastated. I talked with her and she was crying.. i talked with the boyfriends dad and the boyfriend and explained too young and not in my home.
my daughter is very sad. i told her i love her and aim just sad as a mom.. it is hard when your baby girl grows up… i then became mad at the boyfriend.. i told him he will no longer come over here.i feel as he disrespected me in my home behind my back..
am i wrong. how would you feel and have you been through this.. even teen advice is ok… just your feeling on the subject…
I just dint want him over here for a while.
Best Answer
I think your reaction was understandable but too over-emotional maybe a calm conversation with both of them together would’ve been more effective (not to mention uncomfortable for both of them)
It is fair enough that you made it clear that having sex in you home is not acceptable, but you must realise that if is not in your home it will be anywhere else.
The best thing to do now is to make sure that your daughter is aware of the consequences and risks when having sex. Talk to her calmly and reassure that she can disscuss anything with you and that love her.
Good luck =]
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One Response to “I fount condom wrapper of my 16 daughter.”Hey,
I am a teenager and my mom found my condom wrapper. I don’t know how she found it, but that isn’t the point. I have had two serious relationships and I am in my second one right now. She knew about my having sex with the first guy, but all she did was yell at me and make me tell her I wouldn’t do it again. Obviously, that method of parenting didn’t work because I continued to have sex. Now I am in another serious relationship and we have sex all the time. It is always protected. She found the wrapper this morning and sounded really mad at me. If you want a teenagers opinion on a subject like this, my mother could yell at me all she wants and ground me for a long time.. but that still will not change the fact that I have sex. I think that instead of yelling, she should just sit me down and have a serious conversation with me and try to understand how I feel. I would love to talk to her about me being on the pill because I don’t plan on getting pregnant anytime soon and that would only help me become more protected. The person who commented above is right. If she is not having sex in your house, it could be anywhere else such as a public place.. and I don’t think you want that. My advice to you is to not condone it, but to understand where she is coming from.. because for her being in a 9 month relationship and having sex is respectable compared to a one night stand. Hope this helped